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The chair and the walker story.

My mother has an attachment to things remaining the same and I have the opposite desire for constant change. Over ten years ago my mother moved from a two bedroom to a one bedroom and 25 years before that- she had moved from a 1500sq foot loft to the 2 bedroom. That is to say she has too much furniture. So chairs, endtables, bookshelves are placed at random and somewhat awkward locations. Now that she has a walker....these things are in her way. When the PT finally got mom using the walker- the first place they 'walked' was to her bedroom and the PT said 'these things have to be moved , where do you want them" this causal question and who said it managed to overcome my mothers entrenched resistance and the obstacles got rearranged. However the path from bedroom to kitchen remains blocked and when I offered to move the offending two items, a chair and a cabinet, she dug her heels in. So now she uses the walker only to a point and then 'parks' it while unsteadily staggering the rest of the way and back.    Her reason for wanting the chair to remain is that when she has fallen in the past the rescuers place her in that chair and also that it is pretty. It is not pretty. I try to explain the chair could be just as pretty and useful two feet away...Her response is anger and hysterics and a plea that I "stop doing this to me".